Meesha's Mish Mash

Forced Marriage Advice

forced-marriage_1748513cI spent 4 weeks in Pakistan recently for a cousin’s wedding, and to visit relatives

Colleagues at work teased me before going that I might not return. Given my sex, my single status, and the prevalence of cousin marriages amongst Pakistanis, they suggested I might find myself married off to one of my cousins before I had time to recover from jetlag

I was touched that they cared enough about my welfare  to warn me of the potential danger I faced.

But as they say, ‘every cloud has a silver lining’,  and the momentary sadness they felt at the thought they might never see me again was soon banished as they squabbled amongst themselves as to who might have my parking space, or my new office chair,  should I be  forced into marriage and prevented from returning to the UK

They were right to point out the danger, of course. Many young girls in the UK leave school at the start of the long summer holiday and are never seen again, having been taken abroad on some pretext and forced into marriage with someone they barely (if at all)  know,

A charity which offers help and support to victims of forced marriages and young people trying to avoid being forced into marriage offers this advice to young peoples who suspect a visit to their homeland is a ruse to marry them off

Conceal a metal object in your underwear.  ( This will set off alarms when you pass through the scanners at the airport and will result in a lot of burly men ‘escorting’ you to a private room for a more thorough search of your person. Once there, you can explain your fears and ask for their help (forced marriage is an offence in the UK)

A word of advice when selecting the object to conceal in your underwear. It should be metal, obviously, but not so large that it prevents you from walking normally (frying pans are out, then)

The charity suggest a metal teaspoon should do the trick

It is not just girls who are forced into marriage. Around 15% of forced marriages involve boys (

The advice about hiding a piece of cutlery in your underwear when being taken to the airport applies equally, then, to boys

A word of caution, though  guys

A piece of cutlery tucked in your pants will do

No need to go to extremes !                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            


8 comments on “Forced Marriage Advice

  1. thekhandyman
    August 23, 2013

    Ha, can’t imagine anyone forcing you to do anything you don’t want to do ! 😆

    • Meesha
      August 23, 2013

      What are you trying to say, bro ? 😆

  2. duncanr
    August 23, 2013

    I baggsed your cuddly toy 😆

    • Meesha
      August 23, 2013

      I heard what you did to my monkey while I was away, dunc !

      • duncanr
        August 24, 2013

        I believe there are photographs 😆

      • Meesha
        August 24, 2013

        Those I do not want to see !

  3. Southern Sea Muse
    August 24, 2013

    Wonderful advice – this could come in handy for a host of other unwanted traveling purposes.

    • Meesha
      August 24, 2013

      And such a simple idea too !

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